Sunday, April 02, 2006

Talks With Kids


This morning after church a woman approached me and recounted a conversation she had just had with my 5 year old. I appreciate her willingness to tell me the details of their talk.

Following the children's hour she had asked my son a few questions about the lessons they had learned.

My son proceeded to tell her that they talked about the Good Samaritan.

"Oh," she continued, "and what did you learn from that story?"

"That we should help others," was my son's reply.

"And how can you help others," she carefully pressed.

"Well, I don't have any sick people in my neighbourhood," my boy noted. (Isn't this interestingly related to the lawyer's question that initiated this parable from Christ: "and who is my neighbour?" My boy, like the lawyer, was not seeing the needy people in his life... much like the pharisees and self-righteous people of Christ's audience).

So the woman, concerned that my son understand the biblical application of the lesson, probed a little further, "How about your brother? What if he fell or something? Could you help him?"

To which my son responded, "Oh, he can get up himself."

He can get up himself??? Clearly, my son was not registering that he could be like the Samaritan and LOOK for needy people to help.

"Hmm," I thought when she finished telling me about their dialogue. "I guess we'll have to review this lesson some more this week."

I am so thankful that this woman stopped to talk to my son. This shows that she truly cares about him and about his spiritual growth. It challenges me to interact with the children of our church in a more meaningful way. I was glad that I knew where my first lesson would be during bible time tomorrow.

Later in the afternoon, my husband, not knowing of my conversation with this woman, also talked to my son about the Sunday School hour. This time my son explained how the lesson was about loving others and continued to explain how he could do this.

"Like, I could help my brother if he got hurt when he fell down," were his exact words.

"He got it! He learned the lesson!" I thought, excitedly.

However, it wasn't in the classroom that he had learned the point (though the seeds were planted there). Thanks to this woman's sensitive questions and intuitive leading towards applying biblical truth (coupled with the Holy Spirit's guiding), my son did grasp the lesson being taught today.

Let this be a challenge to all of us to STOP and TALK to the children around us. We just may be God's instrument to help them figure out the things of God. And who knows? Maybe that's our way of being a "good samaritan."

Wednesday, March 29, 2006

Parenting 101

Here's the final installment of bible verses from Lou Priolo's Teach Them Diligently: How to Use the Scriptures in Child Training (Woodruff: Timeless Texts, 2000), 131-143].

Selfishness
Phil.2:3-4 "(Let) nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."
Additional references: Prov.11:24-25; Rom.12:20-21; Rom.15:1; Gal.5:13-15; Gal.6:9; 1 Pet.4:9-11

Stinginess (not sharing)
Heb.13:16 "And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased."
Additional references: Prov.11:24-25; Prov.22:9; Luke 10:25-37; Eph.4:28; 1 Tim.6:18;

Stubbornness (Insubordination)
Eph.6:1 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right."
Additional references: 1 Sam.15:23; James 4:6

Teasing/ Jesting
Prov.26:18-19 "Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows and death, So is the man who deceives his neighbor, and says, "was I not joking?""
Additional references: Prov.12:18; Eph.4:29; Eph.5:4

Ungratefulness
1 Thess.5:18 "In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."
Additional references: 2 Tim.3:2; Col.3:15-17; Col.4:2; Heb.13:5

Unfaithfulness (not being dependable, reliable, or trustworthy)
Matt.5:37 "Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes' and your 'No', 'No': anything beyond this comes from the evil one."
Additional references: Ps.15:4-5; Prov.6:1-5; Matt.21:28-32; Col.3:9

Unkindness
Col.4:6 "Let your speech always be with grace, as thought seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person."
Additional references: Prov.19:22; Luke 6:35; 1 Cor.13:4; Eph.4:23,29; Col.3:12

Vindictiveness
1 Thess.5:15 "See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all men."
Additional references: Prov.20:22; Rom.12:14-21; Eph.4:26; Heb.12:15

Withdrawing (clamming up)
Eccl.3:7 "There is a time to be silent, and a time to speak."
Additional references: 1 Sam.19:4-5; 1 Sam.25;24-42; Est.4:13,14; Est.7:4; Job.32:4-22; Prov.24;11,12; prov.31:8,9; Acts 4:19,20

Worry
Phil.4:6-8 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let our requests be made know to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are right whatever things are pure, whatever things are admirable, whatever things are lovely, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things."
Additional references: Ps.37:5; Matt.6:25,34; 1 Peter 5:6-7

The Scarlet Cord

Joshua 2:21 ends with, "and she tied the scarlet cord in the window."

I was reading the account of Rahab and the spies this morning. Two things engaged my mind as I was journeying through Joshua 2. First, how the people of Canaan were afraid of the Israelites. This is like USA being afraid of Greenland. The Canaanites were numerous, mighty, large, and fortified in their walled cities, such as Jericho. And yet... their hearts were "melting with fear." Look at Joshua 2:9, "a great fear of you has fallen on us, so that all who live in this country are melting in fear because of you." The same in Joshua 2:11, "our hearts melted and everyone's courage failed because of you."

This was God's power at work. This was a miracle in progress. Back in Deuteronomy 2:25 the following prophecy is made, "This very day I will begin to put the terror and fear of you on the nations under heaven. They will hear reports of you and will tremble and be in anguish because of you". God made these mighty Canaanites shake in their boots by shaking up their minds - filling their minds with fears, via rumours.

Rahab acknowledges this fright, but comes beyond the fear to grasp who this God is. Joshua 2:11, "for the Lord your God is God in heaven above and on earth below." Her countrymen, though they were afraid, did not turn their hearts to Jehovah. But Rahab does.

And then comes the unfolding of an echo of the Passover story, in the middle of heathen Jericho. In verses 17 thru 20, Rahab is told to tie a SCARLET cord (scarlet, like blood) in her window. She is told to gather her mother and father, her brothers and all her family into her house just as the Israelites were to gather in their houses the night the angel of the Lord passed through Egypt and killed the firstborns before the exodus.

Finally, it comes to the moment of faith. Jericho is being circled by the parade of Israelites and all of Jericho (including the king who has already once sent a message to Rahab) is "melting with fear". In the middle of this heightened security alert, Rahab has put out the scarlet cord. This would have taken faith. Would the guards not be asking her about the cord.. a possible weak link in their fortress of security. I considered the risks today as I read. Any number of spies, militia, or armed men could access the city via this dangling cord. She was putting herself out there keeping this cord in the window. They could have come to her and questioned her, or worse yet, put her into captivity or under trial for possible treason. People were often killed for less questionable behavior. And yet, here is Rahab. Faithful to the command. Obedient, despite the risks.

Here's my second point. Clearly, she was clinging in faith to the promise of salvation given to her. And what a picture this is as Easter is approaching. My faith is also based on a promise of salvation. This salvation comes via the scarlet cord of Christ's blood. And I am so grateful for that scarlet cord.

p.s. I found the "melting fear" idea to be missing from the Veggie Tales recounting of Josh and the Big Wall. This gave me yet another opportunity to discuss the true biblical account with my children, in contrast to "creative license".

Tuesday, March 28, 2006

Women - What's Our Place?

For an interesting discussion on the issue of women and our place in the home, check out Many Evangelicals Unwittingly Live as Feminists, a review of Russell D. Moore's statements. It's a bit heavier reading than I sometimes offer, but definitely worth a little chewing to get your brain going mid-week.

Monday, March 27, 2006

Home Tips


I've renamed my Time-saver Tips to Home Tips so I can keep it more generic.
Just thought I'd mention another tip I discovered after years of having a freezer. For many of you, this is probably common sense, but I happened upon the idea when I was re-arranging things after going grocery shopping, while I still had my gloves on.

Home Tip #2
Wear mittens, gloves, or oven mitts while you re-organize your freezer. It makes the chore a lot easier, and as a result, quicker too.

Coffee Cup Verse


Deuteronomy 6:4-7
Hear O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be upon your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your shildren, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down,
and when you rise up.

Saturday, March 25, 2006

When You Least Expect It

Every monday Daddy takes the boys for the morning, while mommy does all the "yukky shopping" stuff that the wee ones enjoy so much! Their tradition has come to include a trip to Tim Horton's for donuts - double chocolate for the youngest and Canadian maple for the more mature 5 year-old. (Daddy is relegated to a black coffee since he's now working out and looking more like Hercules everyday).

Over the past month, Tim Horton's has been running a contest called "Roll Up the Rim to Win". For the Americans reading this post, this is a contest that is arguably the most popular amongst the fast food chains. Every purchaser of a medium or large drink is urged to roll up the rim of the cup and check to see if their cup has won. Prizes range from a free cup of coffee to a car.

Last monday, Daddy enjoyed his coffee while the boys munched away. Afterwards, he carefully peeled up the cardboard lip of the cup to discover the three special words - please play again! My eldest son was particularly disappointed since he was sure we'd win something great. The tv commercials during the Saturday night hockey games pretty much assured we'd win a car, or a stereo at least.

Dad didn't give the episode much thought after tossing away the remnants of his java fix. At least not until dinner, when my son revisited the topic.

"Dad, did you want to win a car, when you rolled up the rim?" he asked.

"Sure," was my husbands quick reply. (Little did he know that this had actually been a theologically loaded question).

"Did you know that we're not supposed to store up for ourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and thieves break in and steal?" our little guy pressed.

"Maybe a car wouldn't be such a good idea, eh?" my husband grinned.

And so we are reminded. Reminded to follow God, via the teachings of His word - and all this, when we least expected it.

By the way, this lesson was partly due to some bible memory work we've been attempting with the kids. It was a good shot in the arm to keep it up. Sometimes I feel it is hard work, but this encouraged me to proceed. We've found a great place to start is the Fighter Verse Set put out by Bethlehem Baptist Church. They come with some cool little knights, which are a hit with boys, in particular.

Can Christians Smoke?

At Pioneer Girls this week, one of our classes worked on a Broadcasting Badge. They are putting together a podcast, and the following is one of the scripts they're voicing. I thought you might find it interesting.

Harry Diculous: "Does the Bible say that you can't smoke?"

Christian: "No."

Harry Diculous: "So I can smoke then?"

Christian: "If you want to."

Harry Diculous: "Good. I need my cigarettes."

Christian: "You can eat sand if you want, too."

Harry Diculous: "Huh?"

Christian: "God created sand. Eat it if you want. But don't complain if you get a bellyache...."

That's just an excerpt from the School of Biblical Evangelism's Preacher's Progress, lesson 63.
Thought it was a unique way to look at the things that enslave us. Somehow we can be so blind to the harm that our fleshly desires pose. Doing things "God's Way" is truly for our best. So why do we insist on doing things our way? Let's evaluate our lives carefully for the "sand" we may be chewing on because of our own foolishness.

Parenting 101

Moms, here's the next installment of bible verses to aid you in raising your little blessings [from Lou Priolo's Teach Them Diligently: How to Use the Scriptures in Child Training (Woodruff: Timeless Texts, 2000), 131-143].

Intemperance (lack of self-control)
Prov.25:28 "(Like) a city that is broken into (and) without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit."
Additional references: Prov.29:11; Prov.16:32; 1 Cor.9:25-27; 2 Pet.1:5-6

Interrupting
Prov.18:2,13 "A fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his own mind. He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him."
Additional references: Eccl.3:7; 1 Cor.13:5; Titus 2:6; 1 Pet.1:13

Judging Wrongfully (motives, disputable issues, the Law)
John 7:24 "Do not judge according to apearance, but judge with a righteous judgement."
Additional references: Is.11:3,4; Matt.7:1,2; Rom.14:3,4,10-13; 1 Cor.4:3-5; James 4:11,12

Jealousy/Envy
1 Cor.13:4 "Love... is not jealous."
Additional references: Prov.14:30; Prov.23:17; Prov.27:4; Rom.13:13; Gal.5:26; 1 Pet.2:1,2

Loneliness
Lam.3:27,28 "(It is) good for a man that he should bear the yoke in his youth. Let him sit alone and be silent since He has laid (it) on him."
Additional references: Ps.37:4; Ps.38:11; Lam.3:24-40; John 16:32

Love of Approval (pleasing people)
John 12:42-43 "Nevertheless many even of the rulers believed in Him, but because of the Pharisees they were not confessing (him), lest they should be put out of the synagogue; for they loved the approval of men rather than the approval of God."
Additional references: Prov.29:25; Matt.23:5-7; Gal.1:10; Col.3:22

Love of Money
1 Tim.6:10 "For the love of money is a root of all (kinds of) evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows."
Additional references: Matt.6:24; 2 Tim.3:1-5

Love of Pleasure
James 4:1 "What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?"
Additional references: Prov.21:17; 2 Tim.3:4

Love of Self
Luke 9:23-24 "And He was saying to (them) all, 'If anyone wishes to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it.'"
Additional references: Matt.20:26-28; 1 Cor.10:24; 1 Cor.13:5

Lying
Prov.12:22 "Lying lips 9are) an abomination to the Lord, But those who deal truthfully (are) His delight."
Additional references: Job 27:4; Prov.6:16-19; Eph.4:25; 1 Pet.3:10

Misuse of the Body (over/undereating, uncleanness, etc.)
Gal.5:16-18 "But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. For the flesh sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you please. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law."
Additional references: Rom.8:5-8; Rom.13:14; 2 Cor.7:1; 1 Pet.2:11

Pride
1 Pet.5:5-6 "Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, 'God opposes the proud, but gives grace tothe humble.' Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time."
Additional refences: Prov.8:13; Gal.6:3-4; James 4:6; 2 Tim.2:24-26

Quarreling
James 4:1 "What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?"
Additional references: Prov.13:10; 1 Cor.1:11-13; Phil.2:1-11; 1 Tim.3:3

Rejection
Rom12:21 "Do not be overcome by eveil, but overcome evil with good."
Additional refereces: Ps.35; Is.53; Rom.12:17-21; Eph.4:31,32

Slothfulness
1 Cor.10:31 "Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God."
Additional references: Prov.6:6-11; Prov.14:23; Prov.19:15; Prov.20:13; Prov.26:13-16; 2 Thess.3:10

Stealing
Eph.4:28 "Let him who sole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with (his) hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need."
Additional references: Ex.20:15; Matt.15:17-20; 1 Pet.4:15

Of course, remember that these lists are not exhaustive. There are many other scripture passages that can be used to encourage your children to walk in the Ways of God. My prayer is that we will be faithful to use God's Word as a "rod and staff", both to correct and to guide... and that ultimately He will be praised through our lives and our children's lives.

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

Time-saver Tip #1


We, as homemakers, are often known as multi-taskers. As such, I'd like to open a forum for time-saving tips. For example, here's something I learned from a magazine - I think at the doctor's office.

Time-saver Tip #1
While the kids are taking a bath, use the time to clean up the bathroom. I've found the steamy room makes the dirt easier to collect. Plus the time it takes me to clean the sink, mirror, toilet and floor is just about the time my boys are finished playing in the water. Then, all I have left to do is the tub once they're tucked in bed and I'm ready to check off one of my chores for the week.

Monday, March 20, 2006

Hot Buns For Just 15 Minutes Effort

My friend gave me this recipe for the bread maker. It's delicious. If you prefer to add whole grains, you can adapt it. With very little effort, you'll have buns that rival Aunt Bessie's.

Bonnie's Buns

1 c. warm milk
1/2 c. warm water
(I just warm these together in the microwave)
1 egg
3/4 tsp. salt
2 Tbsp. brown sugar
2/3 Tbsp. white sugar
1 Tbsp. butter or margarine
3-3/4 cups flour
2-1/4 tsp. yeast

Put in bread maker in order given. Set bread maker to Dough cycle. After 2 hours mix time, form into buns, put on pans and let rise (30-40 min.) Bake about 10 minutes at 375 degrees. Voila. Hot, delicious buns... especially delicious with soup!

Coffee Cup Verse


Psalm 121:1,2
I lift up my eyes to the hills--
where does my help come from?

My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.

Saturday, March 18, 2006

I'm Sorry

Our classroom was the bathroom today. My youngest son was still snoozing, so I decided to give the eldest a bath in our en-suite. It's a fairly large room with a huge picture window over the tub (which is wonderful, as long as you're not taking a bath at night, when it becomes a movie screen). When the sun shines through the sparkling windows, it is actually a delightful place to get washed up and ready to face the day.

Last week I had done a "spring cleaning" of this room, washing the walls, cleaning the blinds, the windows, etc. Everything has remained sparkling, since the children haven't really had occasion to use our bathroom. However, this morning I was wanting to keep the house quiet and decided to use our bathtub for the big boy. I reminded him that I had done a thorough cleaning and would appreciate no splashing with the toys.

He obliged for the first 5 minutes or so, but as time went on, his memory grew dim. Before I knew it, he was taking his spraying frog and spraying his "pirate" Noah on his Tupperware ark.

"Mac, please don't make sprays or splashes," I reminded him.

"I'm sorry, Mom," was his immediate response.

"Wow," I thought. "He must be understanding how to correct wrongs committed to others."

Before the thought was complete, he was committing the same crime.

"Mac! I thought you said you were sorry." The words poured out of me. And as I uttered them, I realized that his "sorry" meant he was sorry for being caught. He did not realize that his behavior was "offending" his mother.

I proceded to try to explain to him what "I'm sorry" means. Trying to explain that when we say those words, if we truly mean them, we will not commit the offense again.

This has caused me to consider my "sorries" to God. Do I say, "I"m sorry. Please forgive me." Only to go on and commit the offense again? May it not be so. May my confession lead to repentance. Repentance, based on the definition of "to repent": to turn from sin and dedicate oneself to the amendment of one's life. The amendment of one's life. That means not walking in that particular sinful behavior anymore.

May we understand true repentance. Look at what Paul says to the Corinthians in his second letter, verses 9 and 10, "I now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, in order that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation; but the sorrow of the world produces death."

The sorrow of the world says "I'm sorry," but turns to re-offend. It is not genuine. Ultimately it is not sorry. Let us not speak these apologies to our heavenly Father casually, but carefully examine our hearts and turn 180 degrees from those unholy behaviors that occasion our way.

Thursday, March 16, 2006

Parenting 101

Fear
Psalm 6:3 "When I am afraid, I will put my trust in Thee."
Additional references: Ps.18:6-7; Matt.10:29-30; 2 Tim.1:7; 1 Pet.3:6, 13-14; 1 John 4:18

Foolishness
Prov. 22:15 "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
Additional references: Ps.107:17; Prov.1:7; Prov.10:1; Prov.12:15,16; Prov.14:3,16; Prov.15:5,20; Prov.17:10,12; Prov.18:2,6,7; Prov.19:29; Prov.20:3; Prov.22:15; Prov.26:3; Prov.26:11,12; Prov.19:11

Forgetfulness
Heb.2:1 "We must pay more careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drit away."
Additional references:Deut.4:9; Prov.4:20-23; 2 Pet.1:12-15; 2 Pet.3:1

Friendlessness
Prov.18:24 "A man of (many) friends (comes) to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."
Additional references: Prov.12:26; Prov.17:17; John 15:13-15; 1 Cor. 15:33; James 2:23; James 4:4

Gossip
1 Peter 3:9,10 "Not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing. For, 'Let him who means to love life and see good days Refrain his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking guile'."
Additional references: Prov.11;13; Prov.20:19; Prov.26:20-22; Titis 3:1,2; James 3:8-10; James 4:11

Grief
John 16:6 "But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart."
Additional references: Lam.3:31-33; John 11:25; Rom.12:15; 2 Cor.7:10-11; Eph.4:30

Guilt
Prov.28:13 "He who conceals his trangressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes (them) will find compassion."
Additional references: Acts 24:16; 1 Cor.4:14; Heb.10:22; 1Pet.3:16; 1 John 1:9

Hypocrisy
1 John 1:6 "If we say that we have fellowship with Him and (yet) walk in the darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth."
Additional references: Matt.6:1-18; Matt.7;3-5; 1 Tim.4:2; 1 Pet.2:1; James 3:17; James 4:8

Idolatry
1 John 5:21 "Little childeren, keep yourselves from idols."
Additional references: Ex.20:3; 1 Cor.10:7,14

Impatience
1 Cor.13:4,7 "Love is patient, love... bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Additional references: Heb.6:15; Heb.10:36; James 1:2-4; 1 Pet.1:13; 1 Pet.2:19-23

Impulsivesness (hastiness)
Gal.5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
Additional references: Prov.25:28; Prov.29:11; Titus 2:10-11; 1 Pet.1:13; 2 Pet. 1:5-6

Inappropriate Speech
Eph.4:29 "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."
Additional references: Prov.13:31-32; Matt.12:34-37; Col.3:17; Col.4:6; 1 Thess.5:11; James 3:2-8

Inattentiveness
Prov.4:1 "Hear, (O) sons, the instruction of a father, And give attention that you may gain understanding."
Additional references: Prov.18:2,13; Heb.2:1; James 1:19

Insensitivity (to the needs and desires of others: lack of compassion)
1 John 3:17 "But whoever has the world's goods, and beholds his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him?"
Additional references: Is.58:7-10; Matt.9:36; Matt.14;14; Matt.15;32; Matt.20:34; 1 Pet.3:8


The book that I have taken these scriptures from, Teach Them Diligently, has chapters devoted to
1. teaching the scriptures
2. convicting with the scriptures
4. correcting with the scriptures
and 5. training with the scriptures.

That might give you some guidance in using the above scripture passages in training up your children. Of course, it should go without saying that we, as parents, need to be modelling these Godly traits before our children. Therefore the above lists might first be helpful to our own behavior adjustments. However, ladies, let me not forget to encourage us to bathe this in prayer and reliance on the Holy Spirit to accomplish a victorious Christian life in us. All the best as you endeavor to follow God's Parenting 101 manual.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006

The Fruit of Her Hands - Part 2

Chapter #5 - Contentment

Summary: I had to laugh at Nancy’s description of "morbid thoughts" after 11 pm. I thought she was privy to my thoughts. Her point was how we can often get out-of-control in our thought-life late at night... overly introspective, overly guilt-ridden, overly hopeless. Then she went on to address our western idolization of health and our bodies. Although I appreciated her ideas, I actually think Debi Pearl does a better job of addressing the great problem we, as women, have with discontentment. Personally, I’ve found this is a struggle that is fed sub-consciously with every advertisement I encounter, every trip I take to Wal-Mart, every self-‘help’ trick I face, etc. I feel I need to be mounting a mental fortress against the "more, better, stronger, higher, etc." philosophies of our present day.

Best lines: Hold it! This is not the time for self-evaluation! After a long, draining day, you are not qualified to do any evaluating! This type of thinking, any time, especially after 10:30 pm, is unfruitful. It only breeds self-pity, condemnation, hopelessness, and ungodly sorrow.

Chapter #6 – Duties of Homemaking

Summary: Nancy talks about working hard as a home-maker. She addresses being busy with the wrong things, such as gossip, as well as being busy with the right things. She encourages us to work hard. In contrast to the busybody of 1 Timothy 5:13, she gives guidelines about female friendships, pointing out the proverbs that tell us to choose our friends carefully. The last point she addresses is decorating our homes. Nancy points out that our homes are for our husbands too, and therefore should not be overly feminine. She suggests we might even ask our husbands to contribute to the choices of paint colors, etc. I know my husband likes dark wood and dark colors, so this encouraged me to keep his preferences in mind as I work on our home.

Best lines: One time when my children were still very young, a woman stopped by for a visit. "How do you keep your house so clean?" she asked. I thought for a moment, and I remember answering, "I work really hard – all the time."

My comment: I was glad to be reminded to work hard at keeping our homes. It’s good to get encouragement to that end, because we often don’t get a ‘report card’ on our work and can become ‘sloppy around the edges’ without a periodical check.

Chapter #7 – Lovemaking

Summary: Mrs.Wilson addresses this topic with a great deal of respect and appropriate modesty. Her manner of sticking to principle as opposed to method is very helpful in this topic, and I found it refreshing amidst today’s overly graphic treatment of sexual relations.

Best lines: The picture I get is of a husband who is so completely sexually satisfied by his wife that he is… not strung up tight because of a feeble sexual relationship, but is married to a woman who makes it her objective to delight and enrapture him all the time. This may seem like an overwhelming command…. Now I am not telling you HOW to do this. I am simply telling you that you must. It is your duty before God… to satisfy him, to delight him intensely and to rejoice with him. There is an important reason why I am not telling you HOW. That’s because you need to ask your husband. He is the only one who can tell you what will delight and enrapture him.

Chapter #8 – Leftovers

Summary: Nancy Wilson ends her book with some odds ‘n ends. Topics such as handling criticism, widowhood, engagement are mentioned.

Generally, this book was helpful because it pointed me back to my role as Dan’s wife. In seeking to "help" him, there are many things that I need to work on. But I’m glad for the advice in how to respect him, serve him, and be content along the way.

Monday, March 13, 2006

The Fruit of Her Hands

Nancy Wilson wrote a succinct book about being a Christian wife, entitled The Fruit of Her Hands. I appreciate her respect for God's word as well as her personal stories which illustrate her points, in real life. At times, I felt this book to be a response to issues or problems Nancy has seen in marriages (some within her own, and some from watching other marriages). The only thing I can say I would have preferred, is a little more text in places and a little more discussion on what the Bible is actually teaching in some of her cited passages.

Overall, I think this is a great book and I would recommend it as an addition to any woman's library. In fact, although I borrowed the book, I am looking to buy a copy myself that I can highlight and scribble on... plus, I'd like to walk through it again with a journal and bible. This way I can personally do a little more study in places where I may need it.

Chapter #1- A Woman's Orientation to Marriage

Summary: Nancy begins the chapter looking at 2 Tim.3:1-6 and goes on to illustrate how women are gullible. She describes how God intended a husband to be the protective head of a woman. I appreciated the fact that she delineated the difference between a husband's headship over his wife, as opposed to men being heads over women. Although we may see this structure also evidenced in church leadership, the idea of submission to men is primarily directed to the marriage relationship in Scripture.

Best lines: We need to cultivate a high view of our husbands and a high view of their God-given jobs. Begin to view your husband as an apple tree in the forest. He is one of a kind, and God has prepared special work for him to do. You have the privilege of being God's appointed helper for him (p.18).

Chapter #2- Walking With God

Summary: This chapter focuses on the need for wives to be personally growing closer to God. She especially exhorts us to be students of the Word of God, because by spending time in the Bible, we will become better wives. I agreed with her observation that, "Christian wives tend to leave the 'fat books' and theology to their husbands. While this may look 'submissive' to some, it is actually disobedience. It is not enough that we know Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, and 1 Corinthians 1 and 14. We have to know more than how to be a good wife. After all, our first calling is to be good Christians"(p.25). I have to admit that I can be prone to doing this, especially when my husband has spent entire semesters studying parts of the Bible. It was good to be challenged to study for my personal growth towards God, not just to know the "answers" to various issues.

Best lines: Although the above citation affected me most, another quote I found helpful was from p.29, Stay away from books that get you to look inward instead of away from yourself to Christ. He is all-sufficient for all the problems a married (or single or widowed or divorced) woman might have (Heb.8:1). ... And finally, pray that your mind will not be led into deception and corruption, but will remain and dwell in the simplicity that is found in Christ.

Chapter #3- Respect

Summary: This chapter deals with showing respect to our husbands - and not only by our words, but by our actions, and (of greatest consequence to me) by our re-actions to our husbands. In her last section of the chapter, she clarified for me the ultimate reason why I am often dis-respecting my husband - not trusting in the sovereignty of God. If we truly believe God is in control, then the "outcomes" of our husband's decisions (good and bad) are subject to Him! This has made it much easier for me to grant hubby the respect God has asked me to give him, deserving or not, whether he's in the right or not. God has promised to work all things "together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose." (Rom.8:28) Consequently, my respect for my husband becomes an issue of obedience to God, rather than an issue of whether or not he is worthy of my respect.

Best lines: God has designed your husband to need respect, and He commanded you to be the principal source of it. As you obey God in this, you will see that an obedient respect for your husband will always have positive consequences (p.37).

My question? Why are so many ladies leaving the words, "I will promise to love, honor (respect) and obey you" out of their marriage vows? Seems they may be selling themselves short on a lot of joy and satisfaction.

Chapter #4- Principles and Methods

Summary: This was an eye-opening chapter for me. Nancy differentiates between principles, "a basic truth, general law, or doctrine used as a basis of reasoning or a guide to actions or behavior," and methods, "a way of doing something." I often get distracted by the latest methods and can totally miss the principle that I should be living by. Case in point - diets. I go on these binges of becoming a "sugar nazi", rather than living by the principle of healthy eating. Nancy talks about extending a Hedge of Courtesy towards others in regards to their methods and granting them courtesy and compassion when our methods are different but the principles are the same.

Best lines: The 'system' can become a source of security. "I am doing fine with God because today I cut sugar out of the kids' diet, I'm breastfeeding on a schedule, and I'm having my next baby with a midwife at home." Approached this way, this is false comfort and it is dangerous. not only is it self-righteousness and works-righteousness, but if this really is God's way, then everyone else who isn't doing it this way is not pleasing God. In fact, they are in sin. This then leads to a feeling of superiority over those saints who do not adopt the 'method'. Works-righteousness, a sense of spiritual security based upon my lifestyle, undercuts justification by faith (in Jesus Christ).(p.63)

My admission: This was a much-needed chapter for a Baby-wise, whole-grain, natural cleansers, homeschooling, sugar nazi! I definitely needed to be challenged on my growing campaigns that are methods rather than principles (quite possibly the reason God placed this book in my lap).

There are 4 more chapters, which I'll summarize tomorrow.

Book Reviewing

I haven’t done a book review in probably 12 years since I graduated University, and maybe even longer than that, since my degree is in Accounting. Business classes meant a lot of number-crunching textbook reading, as opposed to evaluating literary content, so pardon my methods. However, I’ve been spurred to share what God is teaching me from a few books I’ve been reading.

As I stated in my post about parenting last week, I believe the Word of God ought to be our authority on matters of living, including parenting, wifery, evangelism, money management, church life, etc. And in His Word I read, "Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips, nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored." (Titus 2:4-7)

The books I’ve been reading lately have fallen into this category of teaching. I’ve learned a great deal about how to live out these God-honoring traits and, although the teaching is not infallible, I believe it falls under God’s umbrella of teaching me in a hands-on way, which is very helpful. As I review, let me make some preliminary statements: I appreciate books that include a great deal of scripture as they discourse on life, but I am still careful to keep my radars up for "proof-texting", incorrect interpretation due to a neglect of context, and any sort of humanistic pop-culture via psychology, sociology or personal experiences.

We live in an age where books are so prolific that we, as Christians, need to be very aware of the attack on our minds, via ideas. Sadly, in amongst this arena of the printed word, there is so much being said that is counter-biblical, and even within a Christian bookstore, there can be a great deal of "biblical" drivel.

As with everything in life, let us read carefully, and filter through the lens of scripture. Then, (and only then) whatever true grains of help we may glean from a pilgrim also walking the narrow road, let us keep them, and follow their example. This is what I believe Titus was trying to have us women do.

Coffee Cup Verse


Ephesians 1:7,8a
In Him we have redemption
through His blood,
the forgiveness of our trespasses,
according to the riches of His grace,
which He lavished upon us.

Saturday, March 11, 2006

Modesty Defined

After discussing my post about modesty with a friend recently, I thought I'd give a helpful link. This gives a quick test to examine our modesty and it was of benefit for me to check my own attire.

It's called the Heart Check, put out by the women of Girltalk at Sovereign Grace Ministries.

I'd be interested how you fare with it. I'm also interested in places to purchase modest clothing. Last year I taught the Jr.High Girls class for Sunday School and tried to give them a list of some "good" stores to find modest clothes. I'd welcome any suggestions you may have.

Thursday, March 09, 2006

Parenting 101

Out of a conversation I shared with a friend at skating lessons today, I've been led to post some Scripture Texts for Child Training.

There is so much advice in the world today on parenting, from the Baby Whisperer to Baby-Wise, the Nanny to Dr.Phil, and yet none of them, even the ones that are Christian like Tedd Tripp or Dr. Dobson, can give us the purest and truest parental advice. That's why I'd like to offer 4 weeks of helpful Bible references that can be used to admonish and encourage our children in God's ways. This information is an appendix out of Lou Priolo's book, Teach Them Diligently: How to Use the Scriptures in Child Training (Woodruff, Timeless Texts, 2000), 131-143.

Anger
James 1:19,20 "Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak (and) slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."
Additional references: Prov. 14:29; Prov. 29:11; Eph. 4:26, 31-32; 1 Cor.13:4-5

Argumentation (back talking to parents)
Prov. 13:1,18 "A wise son (accepts his) father's discipline, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. Poverty and shame (will come) to him who neglects discipline, But he who regards reproof will be honored."
Additional references: Prov.10:8; Prov.15:1; James 1:19-20; Judg. 3

Bad Company (wrong friendships)
1 Cor.15:33 "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals."
Additional references: Prov.1:10-19; Prov.2:10-19; Prov.9:6; Prov.12:26; Prov.13:20; Prov.28:7; Heb.12:15

Bitterness (resentment)
Heb.12:14-15 "Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. see to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled."
Additional references: Prov.26:24-26; Gal.5:15; Eph.4:31; 1 John 2:9-11

Blameshifting
Prov.28:13 "He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes (them) will find compassion."
Additional references: Gen.3:12-13; Ex.32:21-24; Prov.19:3; Matt.7:1-5; James 1:13-15

Complaining
Phil 2:14 "Do all things without complaining and disputing."
Additional references: Ps.19:14; 1 Cor.10:10; Eph.4:29; Phil. 4:11-13

Covetousness (greed)
Luke 12:15 "And He said to them, 'Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.'"
Additional references: Prov.15:16-17; Prov.17:1; Col.3:5; 1 Tim.6:6

Defiance (a.k.a. being a 3 year-old:)
Prov. 30:17 "The eye that mocks a father, and scorns a mother, The ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it."
Additional references: Deut.21:18-21; 1 Sam.15:23; Prov.19:26; Prov.29:1

Disobedience
Col.3:20 "Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord."
Additional references: Ex.20:12; Prov.13:13; Prov.30:17; Eph.6:1,2

Disorderliness
1 Cor. 14:40 "Let all things be done decently and in order."
Additional references: 1 Cor.11:34; 1 Cor.15:23

Disrespect
Eph.6:2-3 "Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth."
Additional references: Ex.20:12; Ex.21:15: Deut.27:16; Prov.3:35; Prov.20:20; Prov.30:17

Still to come in the next weeks - foolishness, friendlessness, gossip, inappropriate speech, inattentiveness, insensitivity, interrupting, lying, selfishness, stubborness, slothfulness, etc. As I have been typing these out, I think I might print a copy and tape it inside my kitchen cupboards for easy access in those moments when I'm faced with correcting the behavior of my kids. It may also be a big help for recognizing my own sinful habits that need to be overcome by the work of the Holy Spirit and God's living words.

Sunday, March 05, 2006

Music For All Ages

A while back, I posted a review of a children's cd called, Awesome God, from Sovereign Grace Ministries. It's a great CD that has spoken to my heart many (if not every) time I listen to it.

Well on the way home from church, it was mommy's turn to pick the tunes, and so I grabbed my latest CD, Casting Crowns. I was excited to listen to this disc again, since I've only heard it a time or two. As the 3rd song on the CD finished, my 5 year-old piped up from the back seat, "mom, play that one again."

I was surprised, since his latest choice of listening pleasure has been Jungle Jam, Jungle Jam, and more Jungle Jam.

As I asked him about why he wanted that song again, (which I was more than happy to oblige, since it is one of my favorites) he said, "cause it's got the giant in it."

"The giant in it?" was my thought. And then, wouldn't you know the song came to the verse about David and Goliath. It amazes me what my kids pick up that I miss totally. But it amazes me even more that God definitely is actively at work in their hearts and minds, while I am often oblivious. That's a good thing. That's His grace.

That's also a benefit of listening to music that is not exclusively geared to OUR age-group. Maybe it's time to crack the old hymnals, gospel songs, and worship chants with our kids, while at the same time dragging out "Music Machine", "Hide Them In Your Heart", etc. for us. I'm glad my kids aren't into listening to their own ipods in the back seat yet. That sure would squelch a whole lot of "inter-generational" worship and learning which happens in our car.

p.s. for your interest,
VOICE OF TRUTH Lyrics by Mark Hall and Steven Curtis Chapman

Oh what I would do to have
The kind of faith it takes
To climb out of this boat I'm in
Onto the crashing waves
To step out of my comfort zone
Into the realm of the unknown where Jesus is
And He's holding out His hand
But the waves are calling out my name
And they laugh at me
Reminding me of all the times
I've tried before and failed
The waves they keep on telling me
Time and time again.
"Boy, you'll never win!"
"You'll never win!"

Chorus: But the voice of truth tells me a different story
The voice of truth says, "Do not be afraid!"
The voice of truth says, "This is for My glory"
Out of all the voices calling out to me
I will choose to listen and believe the voice of truth

Oh what I would do to have
The kind of strength it takes to stand before a giant
With just a sling and a stone
Surrounded by the sound of a thousand warriors
Shaking in their armor
Wishing they'd have had the strength to stand
But the giant's calling out my name
And he laughs at me
Reminding me of all the times
I've tried before and failed
The giant keeps on telling me
Time and time again. "Boy you'll never win!"
"You'll never win!"

But the stone was just the right size
To put the giant on the ground
And the waves they don't seem so high
From on top of them lookin' down
I will soar with the wings of eagles
When I stop and listen to the sound of Jesus
Singing over meI will choose to listen and believe the voice of truth

Can't you just see how this song would relate to the "giants and fears" world of a 5 year-old boy, and yet I sadly never would have considered it as touching his soul. I'm glad God works while mommy's busy driving!

Coffee Cup Verse



Proverbs 17:22
A joyful heart is good medicine,
But a broken spirit dries up the bones.

Saturday, March 04, 2006

Gertie !!

Gertie's come to visit and I'm not wanting to complain, but I wish she'd leave soon. She's been troubling me with her annoying ways. For much of the day, we have been co-existing but every now and then she just stings me with a cruel jab out of nowhere. My kids have been pretty much oblivious to her presence, but I'm not sure if that's because she's mostly been staying cooped up in her 'hiding place'. Her milky-white skin covers the heart of a tiny monster, I hate to say. My sleep has been disturbed for the past 3 days. Just when I seem to return to my sweet dreams, she wakes me with another reminder of her presence. It's hard sometimes to put on a smily face with her around, but like any other trooper, I'm doing the best I can.

It seems Gertie hasn't been visiting other people quite as often as she's been frequenting my place lately. My sister says she hardly ever comes by, although she too, has to admit that Gertie really is a cantankerous one!

I'm sorry to be sharing my lament with you, but I thought maybe expressing my frustration would at least ease my mental agony over this latest surprise appearance... I just hope and pray that she'll be gone by the time hubby returns from California on Monday. That's the thing with Gertie - you never really know how long she'll stay this time!

My prayer is that our relationship could heal and that there won't be any permanent scars because of our antagonism towards one another. Thanks for allowing me to vent... and maybe you could say a prayer for my situation.
p.s. Gertie is a canker sore. I thought maybe naming my ailment would give me a bit of humor to help "ease the load" of this latest malady.

Friday, March 03, 2006

Modesty Revisited

Tonight I was continuing my voyage through Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. One of the chapters dealt with women being chaste, based on Titus 2:4-5, "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste..." Debi made some interesting statements that left me at my knees before God.

Modesty has been something that I have been learning. When I was a teenager, my father, in particular, was less than thrilled with my exceptionally baggy sweat-shirts and other wide tops. I was still getting "comfortable" with my newly developing body, and combined with the "flashdance" fashions, this made these baggy clothes very appealing to hide in. As the years went on, I changed in my tastes and began to risk shorter hemlines, more figure-flattering tops, etc.

Debi Pearl discussed modesty in the context of Matthew 5:28: "Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." She re-iterated how men are visually stimulated and how we, as women, need to be careful of that. In fact, she pointed out that, "Jesus said that a lusting man commits adultery WITH a woman, not against her, meaning that the woman is included in the lusting adultery."

As I read on in the chapter, I was reminded of some of my outfits in previous days that may have caused a man to stumble - skirts too short, tops too tight, etc. I was especially convicted about my clothing selections for church and I confess this because I hope others don't make similar mistakes. Although I may have been naiive, I should have known better.

Debi writes, "If you want to get provocative, do so in private with your husband. In fact, I recomment it, but when you come out of the bedroom and go to church or to the local store, dress as you would dress for the Judgment Seat of Christ." Wow! That sure takes modesty to a new level. But she's right. We need to be professing our godliness in all our behavior, including our dress.

May we all pledge anew to carefully consider the men in our lives... and I am not speaking of our husbands here. There are other men that sit behind us in church, work beside us, that are exposed to our immodesty. Let us not be contributing to the sin of lust which is rampant in our society, but let us raise the standard of feminine attire to a place of purity and beauty, as it was intended.

Wednesday, March 01, 2006

God Save The Queen

As part of our schooling today, we sang, "God Save The Queen". It's interesting how words can mean many different things. I was explaining the definition of the word "save" to my son. Looking at the dictionary, it means, " to rescue or deliver from danger or harm and to preserve or guard from injury, destruction, or loss". My 5 year-old smiled and responded, "Oh, I thought it meant save... like you and daddy talk about people being 'saved'... like a Christian."

That stopped me. Yes, that would fit into this song too. It could be a prayer for their spiritual destiny. That's what I should be praying for my queen and my prime minister and other God-ordained authorities over me, and yet I so often fail to include them on my prayer list.

This was a good reminder to pray for the salvation and sanctification of my rulers. For those of you that are unfamiliar with the lyrics of the anthem, this is the first verse:

God save our gracious Queen
Long live our noble Queen,
God save the Queen:
Send her victorious,
Happy and glorious,
Long to reign over us:
God save the Queen.

Monday, February 27, 2006

Coffee Cup Verse



Philippians 2:3-5

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,

Friday, February 24, 2006

How White Are You?


For school, our memory verse last week was "Cleanse me with hyssop and I will be clean, Wash me and I will be whiter than snow." (Psalm 51:7)

In keeping with my (unintentional) laundry theme this week, the psalmist is speaking in terms we homemakers can relate to, oh so well. Wash me and I will be whiter than snow. I relish laundry that is sparkling white. Bleach, bluing, detergents, all are attempts to regain whiteness in fabrics. Stains happen so easily... a blueberry drops off the pancake and lands in my husband's lap, spaghetti sauce drips from my sons lips to his shirt, mommy leans into the car to strap the boys into their carseats and oh no, dirt works its way across her jeans. On and on the staining continues. At the end of the day, the laundry pile is full of filthy clothes. Hardly any of these stains are "intentional". Many are so difficult to deal with, they leave residues that are next to impossible to remove.

This points me to my spiritual "stains". When I look at the ten commandments or the "greatest commandments" given by Jesus (Matt. 22:37, 39), I see myself falling short. Sadly, I fail God every day. Sometimes it is more than I can bear, when I evaluate my day and consider my actions. However, I am amazed and consoled by the psalmist's plea in this verse. I relate to his request to be washed. My husband is preaching on Romans 3 on sunday, and there too we are reminded of our need for cleansing, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."(v.23) Our situation is so desperate before the holy and pure God.

Then Jesus steps into the picture and offers His blood. 1 John 1:7 says, "...the blood of Jesus cleanses (washes) us from all sin." Did you catch that? ALL sin. This matches completely with the psalm. We will be whiter than snow. That is cleaner than clean. Not a spot. Not a residue. Not a trace. All because of Jesus Christ.

What a picture. This made me rejoice anew when I awoke to a beautiful snowfall this morning. As I walked to the shed, the sparkling snow seemed so white. Is it really possible that I am whiter than that? It truly is a miracle that Christ's blood washes me that clean. Thank you God for the whole plan. It's amazing. It's humbling. It's beautiful!

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Man Of The House

My husband goes to a pastor's conference once a year and my eldest son reminded me today that, "while Daddy is gone, I will be the man of the house." To him, that means saying the prayer at the dinner table and "protecting" mommy and his younger brother. Of course, he doesn't understand that he receives no authority, since he is our child. However, we want him to develop a mind that "takes care of and protects" a family some day (should God bless him this way.)

Another aspect to preparing him for his role as eldest son, is to ready him for those moments we never anticipate because they are too horrible or unimaginable to contemplate. A simple example of this happened almost 4 years ago when my dad passed away.

Throughout my life, Sunday lunch was a big deal. We would come home from church and have a beautiful feast, complete with fine china, crystal glasses and almost every week, guests. My dad loved company and enjoyed hosting friends, though he generally did his part by sitting at the end of the table. His charismatic and winning personality seemed to bring interest to every meal. Conversations were often lively, challenging, informative, and more often than not, full of laughter. Of course, when he passed away, a big whole was empty at the end of our table.

I'll never forget the first sunday after he died. It was Father's Day. My mom, out of habit, was fixing the dinner- we were a big group with our spouses and children. I set the table, out of habit, not really thinking. When it was time to sit down, we all kind of looked at each other, wondering where we should sit. It seemed without my dad, we all felt kind of lost. My husband, the oldest male in the building, didn't move to sit in dad's seat, nor did my brother-in-law. My mother broke the ice and said, "well Eric, you are now the man of the family. Why don't you pray?" So my brother sat down, and began to thank God for lunch. It was comfortable and comforting.

My dad didn't travel very often in all the years, that I can remember. But my mom has told me since, that whenever he wasn't in town, she would have Eric pray, "as the man of the house." It was interesting to see that this small act was preparation for the time when he would step into the role of being the oldest son.

Of course, any of us (my mom, my sister, myelf, our husbands, our children) could have prayed for that Father's Day meal. But the transition of missing dad could not have been filled as "easily" with any of us sitting in his chair.

For this reason, I am also trying to prepare my son. Not just for the role he will have in his own home, but for the role he may one day have in our home.

Monday, February 20, 2006

Mid-night Lesson

Last night around 1 pm, just about the time my REM sleep was becoming deep and dreamy, my two year-old awoke with a blood-curdling scream. He was racing out of his room towards ours and I tried to gently calm him with my voice. Being still only half-awake, I let him slip into our bed, thinking I would move him in a few minutes, once he fell asleep. Unfortunately, I fell asleep in about 3 seconds and didn't wake again until around 3:30.

I was stiff from being shoved against hubby's herculan chest by my bed-hogging and oh so adorable son. Knowing the risk of having my son become a "habitual visitor" of our bed, I knew it best to move him back to his room. Yet at this hour, I also knew how chilly the house can be, since we have the thermostat set to a brisk temperature while we sleep.

Mentally, I was grumbling about moving my son, while also knowing this was what I needed to do for his own good. As I crawled from under the covers, I was gripped with a thought. Here God was asking me to be a mom. Nothing amazing. Just a mom, doing her everyday job. But I could have a good attitude or one that needs adjustment. A verse on servanthood that has been haunting me since my bible study last week came to mind, "If anyone wishes to come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me." (Matt. 16:24)

As I reached for my son, I was suddenly convicted of my half-awake murmuring. God has allowed me to mother this boy, and my duty is to "take up my cross" and serve my family - out of obedience to my God. But here I was "complaining" about His job description for me.

Oh how my heart changed as I picked him up. What a privilege I suddenly felt. What a love. What a joy. I didn't notice the cold air. I didn't feel the usual weariness or irritation at being awoken. He seemed so light, so precious, so beautiful.

I also contemplated how Jesus felt when the cross was placed upon His shoulders - my cross. Did He bear the cross with a similar love that I felt for my son, as I moved through the dark? Oh but the hideousness of what He carried! How dare I ever murmur about what God asks of me in service to Him.

To help me better serve the people in my life, my coffee cup verse for the week is Romans 12:1. I pray it helps me grow in the habit of self-denial - to bring glory to God.

Coffee Cup Verse


Romans 12:1
Therefore I urge you, brethren (sisters), by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual act of worship.

Saturday, February 18, 2006

Laundry Room Confessional - Part 2

I will continue the Sins of Commission, but before I do: an ironing tip. Four or five years ago, when my sister was living in the US, she bought me some Linen Water, as a Christmas present. It is a lovely fragranced water that helps scent your laundry while helping steam it. I have now even resorted to ironing my bedsheets, because it is so nice to crawl into bed when the sheets smell beautiful, as well as look beautiful. Plus it makes me feel like a Proverbs woman (Proverbs 7:17 "I have sprinkled my bed with myrrh, aloe and cinnamon". ) Lately I've seen these Linen Waters available in Canada at places like Winners and specialty shops. I'm almost out of mine, so I'll probably go out and find some more.

Now back to the Laundry Room Confessional...

Sins of Commission - Part 2

LYING: Any species of designed deception for a selfish reason is lying. If you design to make an impression by words or looks or actions, contrary to the naked truth, God calls it a lie and charges ou with lying.

CHEATING: Write down whenever you have dealt with a person and done to him that which you would not like him to have done to you. That is cheating.

HYPOCRISY: How many times have you confessed sins that you did not mean to break off? Or prayed to impress others rather than God?

ROBBING GOD: Instances when you have misspent your time and squandered hours that God gave you to serve Him. Times when you have misapplied your abilities or wasted God's money on things you did not need. Didn't tithe properly. You have sinned.

* These thoughts were compiled from a devotional on Spiritual Power by Charles Finney. Although I don't agree with him on all his points of theology, I found these thoughts to lead to repentance helpful. Thanks to adult sunday school, where a friend shared these thoughts.

Laundry Room Confessional


I love ironing. It's probably one of my favorite household "chores". I know many people that abhor the task, but for me there is something beautiful about taking a wrinkled shirt, using extreme heat and transforming the shirt into "like-new" condition. (Almost like what God does with us in the process of sanctification.)

Back in December, we were given a sheet about Sins of Commission, which I propped against the window in my laundry room. It has given me much to think about as I work away at the pile of clothes that sometimes accumulate. Thought I'd share it with you, in case you also have many wrinkles to work out with God. Blessings, sisters.

Sins of Commission - "He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy." Proverbs 29:13

WORLDLINESS: How have you regarded your worldly possessions? Have you looked at them as really yours - as if you had a right to dispose of them as you own, according to your own will? If you have loved property, and sought after it for its own sake, or to gratify lust and ambition or a worldly spirit, you have sinned.

PRIDE: How many times have you thought more and taken more pains about decorating your body to go to church than you have about preparing your mind for the worship of God? Cared more about pleasing others than in how your soul appears in the sight of the heart-searching God?

ENVY: Look at the times when you were envious of those whom you thought were above you in any respect or more talented or useful than you. Have you not so envied some that you were pained to hear them praised? You chose rather to dwell upon their faults than upon their virtues?

EVIL SPEAKING & SLANDER: Have you had instances when you have had a bitter spirit and spoke of believers in a manner entirely devoid of love and charity? Times when you have spoken behind others' backs of their faults, real or supposed, unnecessarily or without good reason. You need not lie to be guilty of slander, to tell the truth with the design to injure is also slander.

Part II to come tomorrow. These alone often leave me in need of confession and restitution to my God.

5 to 10 a day

We're told to get 5-10 portions of vegetables and fruit a day, according to the Canada Food Guide. When my children were younger (and still somedays), they aren't gung-ho on raw vegetables. Combine that with a husband that considers red peppers to be an exotic vegetable, and it sometimes feels like there aren't many recipe options to give my family the necessary vitamins. A few years ago I came across an excellent recipe for a vegetable soup that has lots of vegetables, with some "exotics" like eggplant, chickpeas, plus taste that is out of this world. In fact, my husband's delicate palate loves this soup. It does have quite a few steps, but they're pretty easy after you've made the recipe once. A truly delicious and nutritious option, so I'm sharing it with you. (I'll probably make a pot later today since I found some roasted red peppers in the back of my freezer yesterday.)

Roasted Vegetable Soup

2 medium eggplants (about 2 lbs.)
2 red onions, cut into wedges
2 tbsp. olive oil
salt and pepper
2 1/2 lbs. tomatoes
6 cloves garlic
3 red bell peppers
1 quart chicken stock
2 cups fresh basil (or to taste with dried)
1 sprig marjoram (again, to taste with dried)
parmesan cheese for garnish
1 can chickpeas, drained and rinsed

1. Preheat oven to 425oC. Prick eggplants and place in a baking pan with onions; toss with oil. Season with salt and pepper. Roast in upper third of oven, turning once, until eggplants are soft and onionsbrowned, about 1-1/4 hours. Let cool.
2. Meanwhile, season the tomatoes; place in a baking pan with garlic. Roast on lower rack of oven until tomatoes are soft and juicy, about 30 minutes. Let cool.
3. Roast peppers under broiler until blackened (doesn't take long). Transfer to a bowl; cover with plastic wrap. Let steam under wrap 20 minutes. Using paper towels, rub off skins; remove stems and seeds.
4. Remove stems and skins from eggplants. Coarsely chop flesh; place in a stockpot. Add roasted vegetables and any accumulated juices from baking sheets. Add stock, 1-1/2 cups of the basil, marjoram, and chickpeas; bring to a boil over medium-high heat. Reduce heat; simmer, partially covered until vegetables are very tender, about 1-1/2 hours. Cool.
5. Place soup in blender. Heat. Thin with water if needed. Finely chop remaining 1/2 cup of basil; stir into soup. Season with salt and pepper. Garnish with parmesan and basil.

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Valentines Reading

So I'm in the process of reading 4 books on marriage right now. Not because we are experiencing problems, but for a variety of reasons. This afternoon, my kids were at "grandma's house" and so mommy indulged in one of her favorite things: reading. I actually read a bit in each of these, believe it or not. They're all great books and so I'm wanting to nibble a bit here and a bit there, kind of like at a great buffet. I'll do a complete review of each book as I finish them, but here are some teasing thoughts:

1. Fruit of Her Hands by Nancy Wilson was passed on to me by a very good and trusted friend that extolled the virtues of this book. I have been finding it a truly valuable book, and will likely add it to my list of "best books". It is straight talk about being a wife in the 21st century amidst the garbage we are fed by Oprah and the like about "wifery". This book is not for the faint of heart, but for those that are truly ready to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.

2. Debi Perl has a new book out called, Created To Be His Help Meet. I came upon this book at a homeschooling store yesterday. The first chapter points out the fact that we as women have been created to be help meets to our husband. She encourages us to be what God designed us to be... since we will function incredibly when we stick to His ways. I can't wait to put more effort into helping Dan. It was very inspirational to read her ideas.

3. The Joy of a Word-filled Family, by John Barnett is another helpful book. This one is geared for parents, but has some excellent chapters on being godly mothers and wives. His wife collaborates with him on a few chapters. My greatest challenge thus far has been his opening thought that I need to completely surrender myself to God in order to be a "proper" mother and wife- "proper" meaning "as God intended me to be and behave". We've had this book sitting on our shelf since last March, and I finally picked it up when I was sick a few weeks back. Haven't put it down since.

4. The last book that I'm working on is called Reforming Marriage, by Douglas Wilson (#1's husband.) I came upon his chapter on the marriage bed this afternoon. Since I was reading Song of Solomon this morning, this chapter was quite apropos. This is definitely helpful material, even after years of happy marriage. I definitely look forward to the "practical" side of growing even better in this area of my marriage, and I am grateful for the sensitive, dignified, godly, and exhorting way Mr. Wilson addresses the sexual relationship.

Well, I look forward to reaping all the rewards of my reading. Just hope my "pea-brain" can keep all the valuable information in an accessible place. Should make my hubby happy, to say the least!!

Monday, February 13, 2006

The Importance Of My Coffeemaker


Some mornings I drink a cup of coffee. Some mornings I don't. However, I've begun to use my coffeemaker as a different tool. I have begun to put post-it notes on my coffeemaker with a bible verse scribbled on it. My intent is to look at this verse to start the day. This idea came to me while I was talking with another mom about creative ways to "chew" on scripture in the midst of babies and toddlers, when sitting down to read for an hour seems an unrealistic task.

I'm calling it my "coffee cup verse". Something to engage my mind when I stop for a drink, start chopping my veggies, empty out the dishwasher, etc. Last week I was looking at a verse in Romans. This week it's 1 Corinthians 2:2, "For I determined not to know anything among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified."

I'll try to post these as my "coffee cup verse" and if you want to join me in this endeavour... great! Or if you have other similar suggestions, drop me a comment.

Keys To The Kingdom -Part 5

The final "key of the kingdom" that I want to leave with you, Shannon, is that of faithfulness. Although this may seem ludicrous to you to talk about, the reality exists that divorce is running rampant in today’s society. I believe that we must resolve daily to remain faithful to our husbands – in our words, our thoughts, our actions, and our hearts. Robert Schuller writes, " (and I don’t have this book anymore. Not a fan of Schuller anymore. Like I said, I was youngJ )

Finally, Shannon, in all these areas, commit to keep these keys in both your relationship with Todd and with God.

Deny Yourself.
Communicate often.
Forgive and forget.
Love God completely.
And remain faithful to your 'king'.

God will be the cement that keeps you and Todd glued together and He is the one that will give you a piece of the kingdom of heaven, here on earth.

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Keys To The Kingdom -Part 4


The fourth key to a married kingdom is learning to love your spouse completely. Matthew 22:37 says, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." I believe that similar to our love for God is our love for our husbands. We can demonstrate our love to God, by loving our husbands.

Next to our love for God is our love for our husbands and we need to pursue this love wholeheartedly. It seems rather ironic to me that the world continually tries to find love and unfold its mystery… and yet never really does. I believe the link needed between a man and woman for true love to exist is God. Afterall, He is love!

One of the Greek words for love is agape. Agape love is plugged-in to an eternal power source (God), and it can go on operating when other loves fail. It loves… no matter what! Agapeo is as unconditional as God’s love for us and this is the attitude we need to bear with our husbands. This reminds me of a situation in my life right now.

I have a friend who is the most loving, caring, sharing person that I know. She is a sweetheart! And just last fall her husband had an affair with another woman- her best friend's sister. Clearly you can imagine what my friend has been going through. Her husband has also been doing some rather cruel things. For instance, he bought a new house for his new woman and himself – just down the street from where my friend and the kids were living. Hurt, pain, rejection are all words my friend knows and all of us feel for her.
As I was talking to my mom about everything, we both agreed that it would be very tough for us to take back our husbands if they were ever to do something like that. But as I spoke with my friend Saturday night, she said something to me that I will never forget. She said, "Marlene, I cannot love my husband– not in my human nature. But I ask God to give me love for him… and He does, and that is the only reason I keeep the door open for him to come home."

Now the situation is not resolved, but who knows, if God keeps giving my friend the agape love that’s needed to mend the marriage, there may be a happy ending yet. But the lesson speaks loud enough. We have to love our husbands, NO MATTER WHAT!

Keys To The Kingdom- Part 3


The third key I want to look at is forgiveness. Pastor Phil talked about this in great depth yesterday at church, but I’d like to highlight some aspects. Just as we are to be quick to forgive – as Christ forgave us… we must also forget. Psalm 103:11-12 says, "For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us."

Strangely enough, marriage brings out the best and worst of us – our mates know every side of us. That makes the practicality of forgiveness in marriage a reality. But coupled with the ability to forgive is the grace to forget. A good memory of mistakes in marriage is a vice which creates heavy and crippling burdens.

A formula for a happy home can be found in Drescher’s book, Meditations for the Newly Married.

Never both be angry at once.
Never taunt the other with a past mistake.
Never forget the happy hours of early love.
Never meet without a loving welcome.
Never talk AT each other either alone or in a crowd.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
Let each one strive oftenest to yield to the wishes of the other.
Let self-denial be the daily aim and practice of each.
Never let the sun go down upon any anger or grievance.
Never allow a reasonable request to have to be made a second time.
Never make a remark in public at the expense of the other. It may seem funny sometimes, but it hurts.
Never sigh for what might have been, but make the bet of what is.
Never find fault unless it is certain that a fault has bee committed, and even then always speak lovingly.
Never part for the day without loving words to think about during the absence. Short words in the morning make a long day.
Never forget that the nearest approach to heaven on earth is where two sould rival each other in unselfishness.
Never let any fault that you have committed go by until you have confessed it and are forgiven.
Never be contented until you know that both of you are walking the straight and narrow road, each helping the other.
-Author unknown.

Forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand and we need to learn them both.

Friday, February 10, 2006

Keys To The Kingdom -Part 2


The second key to your kingdom will be communication. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 read, "Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in all circumstances."

Another aspect of communication that Jesus speaks of is listening as found in John 10:27, "My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow Me."

Norman Wright has written an entire book about this topic, called Communication: Key To Your Marriage. In this book, he describes comunication as a process (verbal and non-verbal) of sharing information with someone else in a way that he/she understands what you are saying. In this respect, talking, listening and understanding are all involved. This is what he writes,


Comunication specialists point out that when you talk with another person there are actually six messages that can come through.

1. What you mean to say.
2. What you actually say.
3. What the other person hears.
4. What the other person thinks he hears.
5. What the other person says about what you said.
6. What you think the other person said about what you said.

Discouraged? Rather. But it does illustrate why communication is often hard work. Someone has suggested that listening intently with one’s mouth shut is a basic communication skill needed in marriages. It has been estimated that usually a person hears only about 20 percent of what is said. What is involved in effective listening?

Listening effectively means that when someone is talking you are not thinking about what you are going to say when the other person stops. Instead, you are totally tuned in to what the other person is saying. Listening is more than politely waiting for your turn to speak. It is more than hearing words.

Real listening is receiving and accepting the message as it is sent – seeking to understand what the other person really means. While listening is generally regarded as a passive part of communication, this is not true. Sensititive listening is reaching out to the other person, actively caring about what he says and what he wants to say. When both husband and wife recognize the importance of listening objectively, and giving each other full attention, they are taking big steps toward building strong lines of communication.

Keys To The Kingdom- Part I


Valentine’s is just around the corner, so I’d like to turn our minds to our husbands. Last week as I was sorting through an old file, I came across a devotional I shared at the shower of a friend over 10 years ago. It was written after about 1 year of marriage (lots of experience to draw from) so bear that in mind. However, I found a lot of good reminders in it. Some of it is a little "young", but I’m gonna post it for you anyway. If there’s anything good, keep it… anything less than good, ignore that.

KEYS TO THE KINGDOM- Part I

Shannon, these last few months have probably been some of the most wonderful days of your life… and yet at the same time, perhaps they’ve also been the most stressful. But I think for me… the best part of being engaged – next to finally being able to get Dan to hold my hand in public – was that I was treated like a princess… as you are. Engagement is wonderful – you get to try on beautiful dresses that make you look like a queen, you are an instant "star" as people rush to congratulate you, hug you, and marvel at your ring. And best of all, you get to have wonderful parties – like this one – thrown in your honour!

As most brides look at their wedding day, I think they often have the same feeling Cinderella did at the ball – they’re excited, but also kind of hoping all these wonderful things will never end. Well, Shan, I believe they never have to, since you will always have a kingdom – that kingdom can be your home… where Todd is the king and you are the queen.

Now this kingdom will face many difficulties and battles… like any kingdom does, but I believe it can be a wonderful place… something like God’s kingdom. So today I’m gonna draw some analogies between the kingdom of God and the kingdom you and Todd will share when you are united. I’ve made some little keys as reminders for you in the future – because if you’re anything like I was, you’ll probably not retain all that’s said tonight. I suggest you pin these on the inside of your kitchen cupboards – or somewhere that you look every day so you can be reminded of some of these "keys of the kingdom".

First, deny yourself. In Mark 4:34 we read, "if anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." Now although this is speaking of our commitment to God, I believe it is also applicable to marriage. Dennis Rainey, in his book Lonely Husbands, Lonely Wives, looks a great deal at the deteriorating effect self-centeredness has on marriages. He writes, "selfishness is possibly the most dangerous threat to oneness that any marriage can face. One woman shared how selfishness had invaded her marriage by saying, ‘My husband and I have been married for 20 years. There is nothing he wouldn’t do for me and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for him – and that’s exactly what we do for each other, NOTHING!’"

As spouses, we need to deny ourselves at times. Sometimes we need to deny our feelings – like if we’re wallowing in self-pity, moping around, grumpy. I’ve discovered that leaving these feelings unchecked simply gives Satan a playground to work in to develop dissatisfaction in me.

Other times we need to deny the expression of our opinions – one of the areas of marriage that I struggle with most, is knowing when to give my opinion and when to shut up. I believe this is something that God can help us with, if we ask him for wisdom in using our tongues.

Another area of denying ourselves is in the aspect of our wants. When we want a new pair of pink suede shoes… or a fabulous Louis Vuitton purse, we need to consider our husbands and their wants, and sometimes sacrifice ours for theirs. It was neat to see this in practice for me when we were in Hawaii recently. I really wanted to get these 2 cool tops I had seen on sale for $10 when I was shopping, but as Dan & I were strolling through a golf pro shop he saw a golfing glove he absolutely loved. Well, the end is that he got his glove and I didn’t get my shirts, but the joy I gain from seeing him wear his new glove is definitely worth the 2 shirts I gave up.

And that’s how denying ourselves works. Although it’s tough to do at the time, the results of putting our husbands ahead of ourselves are amazing.

Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Hard Teachings

I was rather discouraged Monday night. You see, I've been studying the topic of divorce in the bible over the course of January. Even before I began my study, I knew there are wise and studied men on every side of the issue. Nevertheless, I wanted to be a faithful student of the Word and explore the topic on my own.

After 4 weeks, I formulated my understanding of God's message to us about marriage, divorce & remarriage. Then, I thought I'd talk to my husband and compare my learnings with what he has read on the subjects. I was excited to talk to him, because he too spent considerable time studying this as part of the elder board at church last fall.

Well, we stayed up to 1:33 and I feel more at a loss than I did on January 1st. It was late when we headed off to bed and so I was down-hearted at our inability to clearly understand all the passages involved. Individually, they seemed clear, and yet when pieced together, it was more difficult to understand God's way.

On one hand, I felt like my study time had been in vain, since I still had many questions about the issue. But on the other hand, I was grateful for the time to examine God's word. I think I've come to realize that I may not end up with the correct "answers" on some of these issues (cessassionism and specifically tongues is my topic for February), but I will still pursue God's truth in these areas.

John Piper encourages pastors to preach "hard texts" - not to shy away from them, in his book, Brothers, We Are Not Professionals. The same goes for us as laity. We must also study the "hard texts". I'm starting to think they are "hard" because of the "hardness" of our hearts. My prayer is that the time I spend on these "hard teachings" will be beneficial to my walk with God and that I'll get the practical guidance I need, even if my "position paper" is lacking.

Let me challenge you to do the same. Don't get too discouraged when you feel "lost" in understanding God's word. Persevere. Study anyway. Pray resolutely. He has included these passages for our benefit - even if it's simply the discipline of seeking His face in these matters. Press on and enjoy studying the harder teachings.

Sunday, February 05, 2006

The Glamorous Life Of Motherhood

I haven’t posted for the past few days because we had a virus run its course in our house. For those of you that are mothers, this story will probably be one of your own experiences. It definitely dispels some of the romanticized pictures of motherhood.

It began Thursday around 5 pm. I had just started fixing supper: spaghetti (which will prove to be a bit of a lamentable choice within 5 hours). As I was chopping the peppers, my stomach felt a little queesie (sp?) but as all mothers do, I proceeded to focus my attention on the task at hand. By the time dinner was served at 6, I excused myself and lay down on the sofa in front of the fireplace.

"Ah, maybe a little rest and calm in front of the flames will help. Just wake me up in an hour," was my request. Sleep came quickly and easily. My truly wonderful husband must have known something was "up" and managed to wrestle the boys to sleep without my stirring. By 8:30 the house was quiet. He tapped me just before 9, said he was heading out to his men’s bible study (it goes from 9-11 pm), and suggested I head to bed for a better rest. I followed his advice, but as I moved from downstairs to upstairs past the kitchen, I figured it might be prudent to pick up a big bowl.

The bed felt so soft and so snuggly. I again quickly dozed off, but was up in about 45 minutes, glad that I had brought the big bowl upstairs with me. After gagging for what felt like 10 minutes, though it was probably no more than 2, I felt better and went back to dreamland.
Not 30 minutes later I was awoken by the cry, "Mummy. Help!" It was my 5 year-old, emptying his supper on our carpet, as he was making his way to my room. (Good thing I had made that spaghetti!) Well, I helped him out of his desperate situation, and started to clean up the mess, when I started to feel sick again. At this point I was wishing hubby hadn’t gone to Bible study, but also thinking I was glad he wasn’t at a hockey game or I’d probably have to struggle with feelings of bitterness.

Then my 2 year-old woke up. As the older boy and mommy are both sitting in the bathroom, wretching, his eyes were getting bigger and bigger. I don't think he can remember vomiting, at least, not since he was a baby. So this was a really educational moment. He was a little overwhelmed by the situation, plus tired, and so he began to cry. Wail actually.

And then came one of those stellar moments, when in the midst of it all, I knew this is what motherhood is all about: giving of myself, even in my hour of weakness.

Turns out we were all feeling much better the next day. Vinegar and club soda went a long way to get rid of the stains on the carpet. But I treasure the reminder I received amidst the "momentary affliction". Motherhood is truly a glamorous life. Not Hollywood glamorous. But glamorous in service. It is a way to relate to Christ in self-sacrifice that I am so grateful for. In fact, I sometimes wish I hadn’t waited until I was 30 to enter this blessed profession of motherhood. It may truly seem like a "sick" way of thinking, but I’m glad we had the flu. Glad because it reminded me that when I am weak, Christ is my strength. Glad because I was able to give of myself when it wasn’t easy. Glad because I have the best job in the world and just needed a "sick day" to be reminded of that!

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Blogging Carefully

Randy Alcorn wrote a commentary on the controversies surrounding "End of the Spear" (definitely worth reading if you've heard any of the latest Chad Allen disputes). After reading the challenging post about this latest movie release, I am committing myself to blogging more carefully. The last half of Alcorn's article deals with the dangers of gossip and missinformation in the church, and extends this to the blogosphere.

May we all chose our words carefully, since "there is almost no gap between composition and publication," as Alcorn notes. Matthew 12:36 affirms the need to "blog carefully", "And I (Jesus) say to you, every carelesss word that men shall speak, they shall render account for it in the day of judgement."