Tonight I was continuing my voyage through Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. One of the chapters dealt with women being chaste, based on Titus 2:4-5, "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste..." Debi made some interesting statements that left me at my knees before God.
Modesty has been something that I have been learning. When I was a teenager, my father, in particular, was less than thrilled with my exceptionally baggy sweat-shirts and other wide tops. I was still getting "comfortable" with my newly developing body, and combined with the "flashdance" fashions, this made these baggy clothes very appealing to hide in. As the years went on, I changed in my tastes and began to risk shorter hemlines, more figure-flattering tops, etc.
Debi Pearl discussed modesty in the context of Matthew 5:28: "Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." She re-iterated how men are visually stimulated and how we, as women, need to be careful of that. In fact, she pointed out that, "Jesus said that a lusting man commits adultery WITH a woman, not against her, meaning that the woman is included in the lusting adultery."
As I read on in the chapter, I was reminded of some of my outfits in previous days that may have caused a man to stumble - skirts too short, tops too tight, etc. I was especially convicted about my clothing selections for church and I confess this because I hope others don't make similar mistakes. Although I may have been naiive, I should have known better.
Debi writes, "If you want to get provocative, do so in private with your husband. In fact, I recomment it, but when you come out of the bedroom and go to church or to the local store, dress as you would dress for the Judgment Seat of Christ." Wow! That sure takes modesty to a new level. But she's right. We need to be professing our godliness in all our behavior, including our dress.
May we all pledge anew to carefully consider the men in our lives... and I am not speaking of our husbands here. There are other men that sit behind us in church, work beside us, that are exposed to our immodesty. Let us not be contributing to the sin of lust which is rampant in our society, but let us raise the standard of feminine attire to a place of purity and beauty, as it was intended.