Thursday, March 09, 2006

Parenting 101

Out of a conversation I shared with a friend at skating lessons today, I've been led to post some Scripture Texts for Child Training.

There is so much advice in the world today on parenting, from the Baby Whisperer to Baby-Wise, the Nanny to Dr.Phil, and yet none of them, even the ones that are Christian like Tedd Tripp or Dr. Dobson, can give us the purest and truest parental advice. That's why I'd like to offer 4 weeks of helpful Bible references that can be used to admonish and encourage our children in God's ways. This information is an appendix out of Lou Priolo's book, Teach Them Diligently: How to Use the Scriptures in Child Training (Woodruff, Timeless Texts, 2000), 131-143.

Anger
James 1:19,20 "Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak (and) slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."
Additional references: Prov. 14:29; Prov. 29:11; Eph. 4:26, 31-32; 1 Cor.13:4-5

Argumentation (back talking to parents)
Prov. 13:1,18 "A wise son (accepts his) father's discipline, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. Poverty and shame (will come) to him who neglects discipline, But he who regards reproof will be honored."
Additional references: Prov.10:8; Prov.15:1; James 1:19-20; Judg. 3

Bad Company (wrong friendships)
1 Cor.15:33 "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals."
Additional references: Prov.1:10-19; Prov.2:10-19; Prov.9:6; Prov.12:26; Prov.13:20; Prov.28:7; Heb.12:15

Bitterness (resentment)
Heb.12:14-15 "Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. see to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled."
Additional references: Prov.26:24-26; Gal.5:15; Eph.4:31; 1 John 2:9-11

Blameshifting
Prov.28:13 "He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes (them) will find compassion."
Additional references: Gen.3:12-13; Ex.32:21-24; Prov.19:3; Matt.7:1-5; James 1:13-15

Complaining
Phil 2:14 "Do all things without complaining and disputing."
Additional references: Ps.19:14; 1 Cor.10:10; Eph.4:29; Phil. 4:11-13

Covetousness (greed)
Luke 12:15 "And He said to them, 'Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.'"
Additional references: Prov.15:16-17; Prov.17:1; Col.3:5; 1 Tim.6:6

Defiance (a.k.a. being a 3 year-old:)
Prov. 30:17 "The eye that mocks a father, and scorns a mother, The ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it."
Additional references: Deut.21:18-21; 1 Sam.15:23; Prov.19:26; Prov.29:1

Disobedience
Col.3:20 "Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord."
Additional references: Ex.20:12; Prov.13:13; Prov.30:17; Eph.6:1,2

Disorderliness
1 Cor. 14:40 "Let all things be done decently and in order."
Additional references: 1 Cor.11:34; 1 Cor.15:23

Disrespect
Eph.6:2-3 "Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth."
Additional references: Ex.20:12; Ex.21:15: Deut.27:16; Prov.3:35; Prov.20:20; Prov.30:17

Still to come in the next weeks - foolishness, friendlessness, gossip, inappropriate speech, inattentiveness, insensitivity, interrupting, lying, selfishness, stubborness, slothfulness, etc. As I have been typing these out, I think I might print a copy and tape it inside my kitchen cupboards for easy access in those moments when I'm faced with correcting the behavior of my kids. It may also be a big help for recognizing my own sinful habits that need to be overcome by the work of the Holy Spirit and God's living words.

6 comments:

Kim said...

Marlene, you have discovered a very valuable truth early in your parenting "career" and that is to avoid the dependence upon parenting gurus. Focusing specifically on Scripture and allowing the Holy Spirit to teach us how to apply that to our parenting is the way to go.

I have an excellent book called Proverbs for Parenting and I wish I had utilized that a lot more when the kids were younger rather than looking for a "quick fix."

Homemanager said...

Marlene,
That sounds like a great book! If I could add a little suggestion. :o)
Take a scripture from each catagory and write it out in a fun or colorful way and help your children to memorize them. (Psalm 119:11)
My two youngest children (8 and 5) are memorizing Ephesians 6. So far they have the 1st three verses memorized.
"Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right." (1) Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise.(2) that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." (3)
All I have to do is ask the question: What does Ephesians 6:1 say? and they tell me and then I ask them if they are following it and of course they say, no and then we can go from there. Now they have the base or foundation for what you're expecting.
Blessings!

Marlene S. said...

Thanks to both of you "veteran moms"... I appreciate your input as you are further down the road than I. I'll look for the Proverbs book and work on the scripture memory idea. You are both very special to me and your advice is gratefully heard.

opora said...

Thank you for confirming that all the advice and tools that we need for parenting (as well as all the other facets of our lives) can be found in the book that we strive to live our lives by - the Holy Bible.

I am new to blogging and I am guessing that people search blogs in order to glean a tidbit of wisdom that they can apply in their own lives. Maybe it is out of boredom or just wanting to fellowship with other like-minded individuals. These may not be the reasons at all, but the only other thing that comes to mind is to give voice to what we already know. This could also be called sharing our wisdom I suppose.

Law often refers to due diligence which is the care that a prudent person might be expected to exercise in the examination and evaluation of the task at hand. I think that before we teach our children we need to be diligent ourselves in seeking God's word first.

I am sure we all do that, but do we do it diligently in all things? I, being new to this forum, find myself questioning my own integrity. Could I not be using this time to be more diligent in my walk with God? Would it be more pleasing to God for me to be praying and bathing myself in his Word instead of "googling" and "blogging?" Or does God command us to blog and google? Those words actually make me giggle at the hilarity of the time I have wasted that could have been better spent. Please don't misunderstand, I see nothing wrong with a little blogging and googling every now and then and I am am only speaking for myself here. It's just that far too often I think many of us take the fact that we have a wealth of knowledge, even Godly knowledge at that, waiting to be had at the click of a mouse. If you're anything like me, that excites me that there is so much to learn! So many new ways in which to grow, but should we be stopping to question our methods or do methods matter at all?

I digress.

I would now challenge us bloggers to take Marlene at her word. Let us not sit here waiting to be fed by yet another “helpful list” for the next four weeks. Let us instead take the upcoming topics and search scriptures ourselves. Let Marlene's upcoming blogs be confirmation of the truth that we have found in scripture and then let us apply those principle.

The role that God has assigned us as women is a noble one that often looses it’s allure in the painstaking admonition of our children. Although all the topics listed here, as well as the ones upcoming, are based on principles of truth, let us divide that paper in half so we cover the spectrum. As a parallel to give balance to this road we are travelling let us also search out the brighter aspects of teaching our children as well. In the other column let us seek out specific ways to teach our children about “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Let us teach our children that while learning to live a godly life requires attention to those nasty areas, God rewards us with a fruitful life! Let us as parents put our best fruit on display as an example to the ones we call our own, the ones from which we can hide nothing.

Marlene S. said...

Welcome to the blogosphere!

I was just discussing the "prudent use of time" issue of blogging with a friend yesterday, and we were also making similar comments.

As women, we need to be very careful stewards of our time, because often we are working "unsupervised". Let us remember that we are employees, actually slaves, of God and work diligently.

Thanks Opora for your words.

Lynn said...

I have this book, as well as his other book, The Heart of Anger, (another excellent book). I copied both the Anger Journal, and the Heart Journal and put them in my childrens' journal. Today, I printed out the Scriptures you posted and put each page in my childrens' journals. Thank you for taking the time to post them.

Lynn